What Make You Pregnant?

A woman gets her period usually once every 21-40 days. In between her periods, the woman ovulates (she releases an egg). If the egg makes a love-connection with any sperm, it gets fertilized and she might be pregnant. However, if the egg doesn't hook up with any sperm, the egg leaves the woman's body and she gets her period like usual--no pregnancy. Sperm leave a guy's body in his cum and pre-cum. In order to fertilize an egg, the guy must ejaculate the sperm inside the woman's vagina.

So, women are most likely to get pregnant around the time they release an egg. Ovulation happens around a week after your period until a week before your next period. But don't count on it! Your period might not be that regular, and ovulation can happen at any time, even during your period. Plus, sperm can live in a woman's body for days waiting for the egg!

So it's never "safe" to have sex (vaginal intercourse) without using birth control, like a condom for instance.

But what if...

We had sex during my period, could I be pregnant?
Yes. Even though this is the least likely time for you to get pregnant, it does happen. Women can ovulate at any time, even during their period. And menstrual blood can transmit HIV, so you should definitely practice safe sex during your period.

We had sex (but not intercourse) with our clothes on, could I be pregnant?
No. Sperm can't swim through clothes and into your vagina! If you had sex in your jeans, shorts, underwear or bathing suit (dry humping), there's no way you can be pregnant.

He came outside my vagina, could I be pregnant?

Probably not. Sometimes, if the guy cums outside, but very near the opening of the vagina, the sperm can swim their way inside. You risk pregnancy anytime his penis was inside your vagina. That's because guys don't always pull out soon enough before cumming and, even if they do, some cum (precum) leaks out before orgasm.

We had sex without using birth control, now what?
If you had unprotected vaginal intercourse or your birth control failed (like the condom broke) you can wait to see if your period comes on time and get a pregnancy test if it's late. 

Sex Everyday - Should Read This!!

Why you should have sex everyday

 
Heard that song called Sexual Healing?
It's not just a metaphor. Sex can actually heal. It can heal your body and mind and also prevent lots of diseases.

Some say it's the first medicine ever known to man and it should be administered daily. Sounds too good to be true? Let's discover the five reasons to have sex each day.

Great form of exercise 
Making love is a form of physical activity. During intercourse, the physiological changes in your body are consistent with a workout. You must have noticed that the respiratory rate rises, which means you get tired. Hence, you burn calories.

If you have sex three times a week for 15 minutes you'll burn about 7.500 calories in a year.

That's the equivalent of jogging 120km! Heavy breathing raises the amount of oxygen in your cells, and the testosterone produced during sex keeps your bones and muscles strong.

Pain relief 
The "Honey, not today, I have a headache" cannot be an excuse any more.

During sex, both male and female bodies produce endorphins, hormones that act as weak painkillers.

A study conducted by reknowned sex theraphist Gina Ogden showed that during sexual stimulation and especially during orgasm, we don't feel pain.

If she finds another excuse, remind her that sex is good for her entire reproductive system, because it trains the PC muscle, which keeps the reproductive organs in shape.

In women, sex can also increase fertility, postpone the menopause and relieve PMS symptoms.

Prostate protection Most of the fluid you ejaculate is secreted by the prostate gland. If you stop ejaculating, the fluid stays in the gland, which tends to swell, causing lots of problems.

Regular ejaculation will wash those fluids out and ensure the well being of your prostate until old age. Problems may also occur when you suddenly change the frequency of ejaculations.

Prevents EDFifty per cent of men older than 40 suffer from erectile dysfunctions and all young men fear the moment when they won't be able to get it up any more. The best medicine against impotence is...sex.

An erection keeps the blood flowing through your penile arteries, so the tissue stays healthy. Plus, doctors compare an erection to an athletic reflex: the more you train the more capable you are to perform.

Stress relief 
It's a scientific fact: sex can be a very effective way of reducing stress levels.

During sex your body produces dopamine, a substance that fights stress hormones, endorphins, aka "happiness hormones" and oxytocin, a desire-enhancing hormone secreted by the pituitary gland.
-timesofindia.indiatimes.com

Sex Without Love - Poem

And i love this poem......

Sex Without Love

 How do they do it, the ones who make love
 without love? Beautiful as dancers,
 Gliding over each other like ice-skaters
 over the ice, fingers hooked
 inside each other's bodies, faces
 red as steak, wine, wet as the
 children at birth, whose mothers are going to
 give them away. How do they come to the
 come to the come to the God come to the
 still waters, and not love
 the one who came there with them, light
 rising slowly as steam off their joined
 skin? These are the true religious,
 the purists, the pros, the ones who will not
 accept a false Messiah, love the
 priest instead of the God. They do not
 mistake the lover for their own pleasure,
 they are like great runners: they know they are alone
 with the road surface, the cold, the wind,
 the fit of their shoes, their over-all cardio
 vascular health--just factors, like the partner
 in the bed, and not the truth, which is the
 single body alone in the universe
 against its own best time.

-- Sharon Olds

Her Orgasm - Is It Fake?

recognize the real thing

The best way to tell if a woman is faking orgasm is to know how to recognize the real thing. Signs of arousal become visible throughout the process of sexual response, particularly during the pre-orgasm phase.

So what are these signs? How can you tell when she’s close to orgasm? Throughout the ages, wise men have reflected upon this question, and in The Tao of Love and Sex, author Jolan Chang offers us the “indications of female arousal,” as laid out by Taoist master Wu Hsien:

“Her hands are hot and her abdomen warm, and at the same time her language becomes almost unintelligible. Her expression looks as though she is bewitched, her body is soft as jelly and her limbs are droopy. The saliva under her tongue has been sucked dry.”

Well, OK, though today’s man might not notice if “the saliva under her tongue has been sucked dry,” he is apt to observe:

•    An increase in the pace of her breathing
•    An increase in body temperature and heart rate
•    A high state of tension in her muscles (hypertonicity)
•    A tightening of the abdominal muscles
•    A throbbing of her PC muscles and a general “bearing down” on the pelvic area

As she releases sexual tension through orgasm, her vagina and uterus will contract, on average, 10 to 15 times, with each contraction lasting approximately 8/10ths of a second. Her rectal sphincter contracts anywhere from two to five times, as well. Attendant to these genital and rectal contractions is the tensing and releasing, in spasm, of many of the muscles throughout her body, including arms, legs, neck, and face. Even her toes will bend and arch forward. 

recognize she's faking it

While many women can duplicate the characteristics of orgasm, including the contractions of the PC muscles, it’s unlikely she could manufacture 8 to 10 of these contractions in less than 20 seconds, especially in combination with all the other visible characteristics.

But, in truth, most women know that when faking it, they needn’t bother portraying a convincing facsimile of the real thing, when they can simply offer up a porn-inspired performance of those characteristics that are most likely to fool and please men: lots of sound and fury, which, in the end, is nothing more than smoke and mirrors. It’s the screamers and the thrashers who are very often the fakers. 

We know that that an orgasm doesn’t come out of nowhere. It’s the final exclamation point on a sentence that you’ve been writing all along. If the final flourish feels unearned or out of the blue, then it likely is.

Thanks to: http://www.askmen.com

Sex During Pregnancy

These days, people can and do talk about sex more easily than ever before. Nevertheless, when it comes to the subject of sex during pregnancy, a little of the old stand-offishness seems to persist. Women are often reluctant to bring up the question with their obstetricians. Worse, both husbands and wives frequently keep their innermost fears and feelings to themselves.
Particularly if this is your first child, your pregnancy will probably be a time of erratic mood swings ... for you and your husband too. You may alternately feel fatigued ... exhilarated, content ... depressed, eager ... fearful, motherly and beautiful... uncomfortable and unattractive. He on the other hand may range from feeling proud at having fathered a child, to anxious about the new financial responsibilities, from protective toward you and the growing fetus, to jealous of your new preoccupation.
All these mood changes will in turn have their changing effect on your attitudes toward each other ... and on your desire for sex. The most important thing is not what you feel, nor how silly you think it is, but that you share those feelings with each other. In this way you can make necessary adjustments and accommodations for a sexual relationship that continues to be as fulfilling as possible for both of you.
Following are some answers to questions about sex that commonly trouble expectant couples. If, after you and your husband have read it, you have further questions ... or if at any time during your pregnancy you encounter a sexual problem or conflict that you cannot resolve yourselves ... do not hesitate to ask your doctor. Be assured that nothing you can say will shock him. No matter how bizarre you may think the discussion, other people have probably had the same problem. And as he counseled them, so can he counsel you ...sympathetically and knowledgeably.

Questions that Trouble Pregnant Women
1. Will my desire for sex decrease during my pregnancy?
No two women react exactly the same way to pregnancy. In most women, pregnancy has no significant effect on their interest in sex. In those women for whom contraception was an interruption or psychological obstacle, pregnancy may be a period of carefree and uninhibited sexual indulgence. At certain times, some women may feel they are "losing their figure and looks" during pregnancy. They may shy away from love-making, feeling undesirable. Or they may desire sex more often than usual as reassurance that their husbands still love them and find them attractive.
Occasionally, there will be a woman who feels an absolute distaste for intercourse throughout the course of her pregnancy. It is thought that this may be related to a conscious or unconscious fear of hurting the fetus, for it usually disappears after the baby is born.
2. Can vigorous intercourse harm the baby?
It is virtually impossible to harm the fetus in the uterus. The fluid it floats in, the membranes that contain it, the womb itself, the abdominal wall, and the bony pelvis all serve to protect the new life from injury.
3. Is it harmful to have orgasm during pregnancy?
Not at all. Orgasm is just as beneficial then as at any other time. And your having an orgasm will make no difference to the baby.
4. How often is it safe to have intercourse during pregnancy?
There is no ideal frequency and any frequency is safe. Frequency varies remarkably from couple to couple and from month to month with the same couple. Some women are disinterested during the first three months of pregnancy, partly due to the fatigue that may accompany this period. But they tend to regain their energy in the fourth month and will often experience a new surge of sexual feeling.
5. Can I have intercourse any time during pregnancy?
Generally sexual intercourse is permitted throughout pregnancy until the last few weeks, when-some doctors feel-it might possibly cause premature rupture of the membranes. However, many doctors do not agree with this precaution. and you would do best to follow your own physician's instructions.
Intercourse should be curtailed and your doctor consulted if:
1) your "bag of waters" has broken; 2) you have vaginal bleeding, or itching and discharge: 3) you feel pain in the vagina or abdomen.
6. I have a history of miscarriages. Must I abstain from intercourse?
It is customary to abstain for the first three months of your pregnancy. Your doctor will probably tell you also not to take bumpy car rides or indulge in strenuous physical activity. This is to give the placenta a chance to develop sufficiently so that trauma to the uterus will not bring on bleeding or cramps.
7. I don't have pain. But the pressure during intercourse causes me great discomfort.
It is simply your husband's weight that is causing you discomfort, this can be remedied by changing position. For instance, he may kneel astride you, or approach you from the side or back, or you may sit astride him.

If you feel internal pressure, it is wise to avoid deep penetration. Changing position or using pillows under you to change the angle of entry into the vagina may help. Also, additional lubrication with cream or jelly made for this purpose may relieve any vaginal discomfort.
8. It is very difficult to talk to my husband about the way I feel. I think I look ugly and undesirable. He never tells me otherwise and he doesn’t cuddle me anymore.
Occasionally, a few men are physically "turned off" during their wife's pregnancy. It is only temporary and it shouldn’t be viewed as a rejection. On the other hand, your husband's seeming neglect probably has nothing to do with your looks, since the majority of men find their wives most beautiful during this time. He may have inner anxieties and mixed feelings about his coming fatherhood that make him seem different. Or you may be unconsciously so involved with your "inner" life, that you are perhaps somewhat neglectful of him. Possibly your husband and you just need to talk things out more.
9. Is it permissible to douche during pregnancy?
This is another subject of some disagreement, so you'd best consult your own doctor. When permitted. you should use a douche bag or can (not a bulb syringe) and keep the water source lower than two feet to minimize the force of the water flow. With the nozzle inserted no more than a couple of inches into the vagina, allow the water to run in and out freely. Remember that douching is a matter of preference, and is not considered absolutely necessary for proper vaginal hygiene.

Questions that Trouble Expectant Fathers

1. I have a strong need for sex but since her pregnancy, my wife isn't interested. It is causing tension between us. What con we do?

As with other marital disagreements, some form of loving compromise is probably the healthiest solution. See if you can talk it out with your wife, and perhaps settle on some lesser frequency or alternate method for you that requires less complete participation on her part.

Remember, too, that it is sometimes hard for a woman to feel interested in sex when she herself doesn't feel desirable. Frequent reassurance from you that she is still beautiful and loved despite her bulging belly may also help matters.

2. When I feel the baby moving in my wife's belly while we're making love, it puts on end to my sexual interest.

No doubt you are unconsciously worried that you might hurt the baby. You won't. As discussed above, the fetus is well protected. And its kickings and turnings have nothing to do with your sexual activity. However, if you are still bothered by this, try another position so you don't feel the baby.

Special Thanks to FRED CREUTZMANN, M.D. –

Myth and Fact About Incest

1. MYTH: Some children are openly seductive and encourage sexual activity.

REALITY: Acting out sexual behaviors is an indicator that a child has been sexually abused; it is a consequence of sexual abuse, not a cause. Adults who claim that children "seduced" them are making excuses which would have us ignore that fact that adults are bigger, stronger, have more information, power and authority than children; and have us ignore the ridiculous notion that children can force adults to do something the adult does not want to do.

2. MYTH: All a child has to do is say "no" and tell someone. If she doesn't, she has consented to the abuse.

REALITY: The child is never responsible for the abuse. Abusers often threaten ("if you tell I will hurt your mother.") and guilt ("if you tell, your mother will divorce me and it will be your fault.") the child into silence, but silence does not equal consent. The other reality is that many children do tell, and are disbelieved, ridiculed and punished.

3. MYTH: Incest only happens when the family is severely dysfunctional.

REALITY: Incest happens in many families that are considered "normal". That is one reason why the abuse remains hidden. Abusers often depend on a "respectable" image to protect them. We must remember that the abuser is responsible for the abuse; not other members of the family. The family as a whole may have problems that existed before the abuse, or problems that developed as a result of the abuse, BUT family problems do not make a man rape his daughter.

4. MYTH: A good mother would know if her child was being sexually abused, and would do anything to stop it.

REALITY: Most mothers do not know. The abuser works hard at protecting his secret. He may sabotage the mother/child relationship so the child is less likely to be close to and trust the mother. He may offer the mother other explanations for the child's behavior/distress. Mothers who do try to protect their children face unbelievable legal and social obstacles. We often expect mothers to accomplish something that the police, courts and social service system combined cannot do; and then we condemn mothers who fail.

5. MYTH: Incest rarely happens.

REALITY: Incest is more common than anyone would like to believe. Although exact statistics are impossible to come by, research indicates that one in four children will be sexually abused; most by a family member or other trusted adult.

6. MYTH: Only crazy people sexually abuse children.

REALITY: Psychiatric testing reveals that 97% of the men who sexually assault children are not mentally ill. They may have "personality" problems, like many men who do not assault children, but they know exactly what they are doing. Often their actions are in line with societal values which represent women and children as men's property; as objects to be used for men's gratification.

7. MYTH: Children lie about sexual abuse to get attention or get revenge.

REALITY: Most children do not tell anyone, ever. The idea that children lie or fantasize about sexual abuse has been protecting abusers for decades. Children do not have the information or motivation to make up stories of sexual abuse. The notion that children lie about sexual abuse does not acknowledge the shame and secrecy associated with the topic; or acknowledge that disclosing sexual abuse is rarely a rewarding experience for a child.

8. MYTH: Children are forced or manipulated into lying about sexual abuse by mothers who want revenge.

REALITY: When children tell about sexual abuse they don't just speak with words. Their emotions, play, drawings, and posture all tell part of the story. Children cannot fake that kind of reaction. Mothers are often accused of forcing children to falsely disclose sexual abuse if the disclosure comes out as part of a custody battle. The reality is that the reason for the custody battle is usually because the child disclosed abuse and the mother is trying to protect her child.

9. MYTH: Adults who suddenly remember that they were sexually abused as children are victims of "False Memory Syndrome".

REALITY: There is no such thing as False Memory Syndrome. It is simply an undocumented, unproven idea invented by the parents of a woman who was sexually abused by her father. Research does validate the existence of repressed traumatic memories. We are most familiar with examples of the repressed memories of war veterans. Most survivors of child sexual abuse have recovered some repressed memories, and many also have "un-forgotten" memories of abuse. Some women incest survivors propose that we investigate False Innocence Belief Syndrome (FIBS) for abusers who steadfastly maintain their innocence.

Oral Sex Is It Healthy?

Most of us enjoyed oral sex i guess. By using our mouth n tongue, this method are so 

popular among us. When men doing it to a women it's called cunnilingus and when women doing it to a men it's called fellatio. There are variety of techniques involving this 'job's. it's all depend how you manipulating the vagina(including clitoris) and penis(including testis known as The  Balls.) It's all about sucking and licking. Couples can performing oral sex at the same time in 69 position.

Oral sex between healthy people is safe and clean. another hygiene aspect that concerns some of us is genital odor. Simply washing the genital is sufficient to prepare you for any sex, including oral sex. Douching can wash away the helpful bacteria that naturally protect the vagina. In addition to a man's natural genital odors, the genitals often take on the smells of recently eaten foods. As with women, thorough washing can reduce this odor, and besides, many people find some degree of genital odor in their partner stimulating.

But do you know that, according to American Cancer Society, you are potentially can get throat cancer from oral sex? Actually it's not the oral sex itself can cause throat cancer but the human papillommvirus (HPV), which can passed from person to person including oral sex.

Researchers have found that some cancers of the oropharynx (the middle of the throat) and tonsils are probably caused by a certain type of human papillomavirus (HPV). HPV is common, but it doesn't always cause cancer. If you aren't exposed to HPV during oral sex, you're not at risk for cancer. 

Anyway, enjoy your sex in any way you like as long as it doesn't make your partner hurts.

Your Sperm Healthy?

A healthy male discharges 50 million sperm in a single ejaculation. During sexual intercourse, of all those millions of sperm, only a couple hundred will make it to a mature egg that is ready to be fertilized.

Factors That May Affect Sperm Health

It is important to remember that there is still a lot to learn about male fertility. We do know that a lot of the things that make sperm healthy are the things that are healthy for men anyway. Keep in mind, though, that the following tips are merely considerations for men with potential fertility problems. Many men have no problem with their sperm count, no matter their lifestyles.

Remember, you should discuss any fertility problems with your doctor to evaluate an underlying cause.

• Tight trousers and underwear, synthetic material and heat: It has been suggested that all these adversely affect fertility, so get out those baggy cotton boxers! Keep the family jewels cool. It is known that the testes function most effectively (including the production of sperm) at slightly cooler than core body temperature.


• Geography: One study showed that geographic location influenced average sperm count. Men in New York City had higher sperm counts than men in Los Angeles. (Whether a man's sperm count will increase should he move from L.A. to the Big Apple is not clear, however.)


• Hot tubs and saunas: Frequent use of hot tubs and saunas may lower sperm counts, as heat may decrease sperm production.


• Alcohol: Alcohol consumption can damage sperm production in a couple of ways. First, it may increase the production of estrogen by the liver, which can lower sperm count. Also, alcohol can directly poison the sperm-producing cells of the testicle. Limit your alcohol intake when you are trying to improve your fertility.


• Drugs: There are a number of drugs that affect male fertility, including steroids, cytotoxic drugs used in cancer treatments, and opiates. Contact your family doctor if you are on any long-term medication that you are worried may affect your fertility. Doctors should always inform you of any side effects, but it is always easy to check if you have forgotten.


• Environmental toxins: There is quite a lot of conflicting evidence about environmental substances that may cause damage to sperm. It is known that radiation causes damage and birth defects. Other substances thought to have a detrimental effect on sperm are some perfumes containing phthalates, some types of pesticides, organic mercury, polychlorinated biphenyls, and estrogens in water supply. Many of these substances are still the subject of ongoing research.


• Smoking: Smokers have been shown to have diminished fertility compared to non-smokers. Smoking may adversely affect the sperm's movement, as well as the health of the sperm.


• Time of day: Sperm counts are higher in the morning.


• Excessive ejaculation and prolonged abstinence:Both are known to affect the number and quality of sperm. Intercourse every 2 to 3 days helps ensure optimal sperm count and health.


• Diet: A healthy balanced diet is important. Foods rich in antioxidants may promote optimal sperm health.


• Supplements: Folic acid, selenium, and zinc sulfate have been shown to improve sperm counts and sperm function.

Seek Advice

If you are concerned about your fertility and think your sperm may not be fit and healthy, contact your family doctor. Some simple tests on your semen and a look at your general fitness could provide some answers.

Healthy sperm mean more chances you guys having your own....

Thanks to mayoclinic.com

STD - Sexual Transmittal Diseases

YOU ALL NEED TO KNOW THIS!!!

Symptoms of Sexually Transmitted Diseases

Mentioned here are the different ways in which one can spot the symptoms of a STD from the following list (some of them), that indicate that you've been infected by one.

• Gonorrhea
- One experiences extreme pain when urinating.
- Discharge from the penis/vagina.
- Signs of a pelvic inflammatory disease.
- Infertility in women.
- One may get Perihepatitis, which is Fitzhugh-Curtis Syndrome.
- Ectopic pregnancy, that is an abnormality in the position of an organ during birth.
(This when treated in time, can be surmounted by the use of antibiotics.)

• Chancroid
- Presence of painful ulcers on one's genitals.
(Disease can be confused with herpes/syphilis and can be treated with antibiotics.)

• Syphilis
- Symptoms aren't easily detectable and starts with an ulcer on the genital area, which in time goes away on its own (painless).
- Headache
- Rash
- Fever
- Achy joints

• Hepatitis
- Hepatitis B and D are contracted through sexual activities, although C, A and E are not often passed through sexual acts, but through blood contact.
- Hepatitis B can cause chronic and acute liver inflammation.
- Due to complications, liver cancer and cirrhosis can take place in a person.
(Very strong medication is used to treat this condition, although immune enhancing medicines are available to prevent hepatitis B.)

• Molluscum Contagiosum
- It is contagious in nature and can be transferred to others through skin contact.
- Raised papules on the skin.
(Can be treated with surgical removal or cryotherapy.)

• Pubic Lice/Crabs
- Crotch area develops an itchy sensation.
(This can also be contracted through bedding or clothing; can be treated with anti-lice agents, creams or combing.)

• Trichomonas
- Vaginal discharge/semen gives off a very strong odor, and is frothy in nature for women.
- Men will experience painful urination or ejaculation.
- Swelling in the scrotum.
(Can be treated with antiprotozoal or antibacterial medication.)

• Scabies
- Spreads through sexual and skin contact, or through furniture, sheets and other materials.
- Infestation caused by mites.
(Contagious in nature; can be treated with creams)

• Chlamydia
- Excess discharge from penis/vagina.
- Painful urination with burning sensation.
- Infertility and ectopic pregnancy in women.
(Can be transmitted through oral/anal/vaginal sexual acts; can be treated with antibiotics.)

• Lymphogranuloma Venereum
- Fistulas (pus discharge) is evident.
- Abscesses in the rectum, groin or other areas; can be treated with the use of antibiotics.

• Genital Warts
- Painless bumps present in the anal/genital area (clusters).
(Vaccinations are available with other treatments like 'freezing' or coating medicines on the warts.)

• HIV/AIDS
- Immune system breaks down.
- Coughs
- Night sweats
- Fever that stretches on for weeks.
- Headaches
- Weight loss
- Dementia
- Infections that arise.
(Spreads through sexual contact or sharing needles (IV kind/narcotics); no cure for the condition, but medication is available to slowdown the disease's advancement.)

Causes of Sexually Transmitted Diseases

Now that the sexually transmitted diseases list makes things a little clearer along with the symptoms, we move on to find out what causes these to sprout up when we least expect.
Sexual acts done through vaginal, oral or anal sex.
Having multiple sex partners in one's everyday life.
Having unprotected sex (not using a condom).
Sharing your underwear with your partner.
Needle pricks done intentionally/unintentionally in the use of drugs / by injury.
Having sexual intercourse while menstruating.
Sharing one's sexual toys with others.
Passing on the disease from mother to fetus.
Physical contact of any kind.
Prevention of Sexually Transmitted Diseases

There are ways for one to stay clear from the aforementioned sexually transmitted diseases list, by being cautionary in everyday activities.
Avoiding sex when one is menstruating.
Not sharing needles.
Avoiding unprotected sex; using condoms lessens your chances of contracting it, but doesn't cancel out on possibly getting it.
Stop sexual acts with many people at a time, and stick to just one partner that you can be sure is clean.
A sexually transmitted disease is not something one can easily cope with when it is at its peak stage, so be sure to always get yourself and others tested before coming into contact with them, sexually. Have yourself tested regularly, and go immediately to a doctor if your body projects symptoms of the same. Have a safe tomorrow.

Thanks to http://www.buzzle.com/articles/list-of-sexually-transmitted-diseases.html 

Women - How To Orgasm

The clitoral orgasm is the first and foremost orgasm for women. It is the orgasm considered to be the most pleasurable and intense by most women.

Clitoral orgasm occurs most often as a result of stimulating the clitoris through masturbation with a hand or vibrator, and oral sex (cunnilingus) with a partner.

Anatomy & Physiology of the Clitoral Orgasm

The clitoris packs a punch when it comes to orgasm, and is often the seat of a woman’s pleasure.

An orgasm from clitoral stimulation can feel quite different from an orgasm that occurs as a result of vaginal stimulation, even though the two are quite interrelated.

The clitoris is much larger than we can see with the eye. So, no matter whether you are having vaginal or clitoral stimulation, your clitoris will be, at the very least “indirectly”, stimulated.

Here's How

Setting the scene: Preparation

Time and Space

Orgasm takes focus. It is essential that you not be distracted. Clear a time and space that will allow you to relax without being interrupted.

Know your Type

Increasing arousal to a high enough point is crucial to orgasm. In order to do that, know which things turn your sexual crank. It is helpful to know your Sexual Arousal Type. If you are aroused by erotic sensations, have a sensual bath. If you are aroused by a partner’s desire, explicit sex or thoughts of being ravaged, put your imagination to work! Get a sense of what works for you and leverage it.

Dedication to pleasure 

Pleasure is the goal, not orgasm. Because the ability to reach orgasm happens mostly in the mind, it is difficult to reach orgasm if you are feeling too much pressure or feeling guilt or shame about sex. Having an orgasm requires “letting go” into the pleasure. If you are worried about what your mother might think or what a priest said about shame, then an orgasm may be difficult to achieve. You need to give yourself permission to have sexual pleasure.

Enough (Proper) Stimulation

Physically

The clitoris is the most sensitive part of the body (with more nerve endings than any other part of the body), and the amount of sensation that is considered ideal can vary widely from woman to woman. The key is to experiment with different sensations until you find what works for you. Remember, there is no “right” way to do it. 

Getting Started

Get into the right head space. Be in an excited, positive mood. If you are too tired or frustrated you may just fall asleep or not achieve orgasm. 

Get in a comfy position. Position yourself in any place your find most comfortable where you have easy access to your clitoris. Here are some suggestions:

On your back. Ideal for those who want to fantasize.
Sit up with your backed propped up. Sit up leaning against a pillow or couch. Ideal for those who like to watch what they are doing or watch porn.
Lie on your stomach. Use the pressure of your body to leverage against your clitoris when you need more strength.

Get the Right Tools

Use your Hand: Start off with this handy tool. It allows you to explore areas more quickly and naturally than any other tool.

Use a Vibrator: The vibrator is the queen of clitoral tools.

With flowing water: A popular way to get a clitoral orgasm is with flowing water. Sit in the bathtub and allow the water to flow over your clitoris. Adjust the temperature and pressure to suit your arousal.

Get the Motion

1. Explore your glorious vulva: Take time to move your hand, vibrator or water around onto different parts of your vulva. The goal is to find what feels good to you.

2. Move to the Clitoris:

• Start out with gentle circular motions around the clitoris.
• Use direct or indirect pressure. For some women the intensity of sensation is too great when the clitoris is touched directly. If this is you, use pressure on the labia, mons, or fabric to reach the clitoris without touching it directly. 

3. Experiment with different types of touch:

• Pressure: try firm to gentle
• Type: whole hand, finger tips to vibrator
• Moisture: wet to dry
• Motion: up, down, circular or horseshoe

If using a vibrator, start out with a brief touch on your clitoris at the lowest setting to get a sense of how your vibrator works with your body.

4. Build up your movements. Do what feels right, moving faster and harder as your arousal builds. You may notice that you become less sensitive as your arousal reaches higher levels allowing you to increase pressure and strength.

5. Rock your pelvis: one of the most successful techniques to building sexual energy comes from movement of the pelvis. Lie on your back, with knees bent. Rock your pelvis back and forth, breathing in as you point your pelvis down and out when you pull your pelvis in.

• Repeat 3 -5 times until you feel the warmth building in your genitals.
• This technique brings blood and oxygen into the clitoris building for orgasm.

6. Cunnilingus:  Oral sex on a woman is one of the best ways to incorporate your partner into your clitoral orgasm.

Mental Stimulation

Orgasms don’t happen by physical stimulation alone. In fact, the majority of the orgasm experience occurs in the mind.

If you are blocked by stress, expectation, negative sexual messages, guilt, fear or boredom, you could be blocking your orgasm potential.

Use fantasy and mental images. Know what you like and use it to build your arousal to a point where you can reach orgasm. 

Special thanks to Dr. Petra Zebroff, Relationship and Sex Therapist

Anatomy Of The 'G' Spot

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The G-Spot is the size of a dime and located approximately 1 – 2 inches inside the vagina on the anterior wall (front of the body).

Do not look for a precise G-Spot ‘structure’, as the G-Spot is an area that is not really inside the vagina at all, but behind the anterior wall. As arousal increases, the area will swell and it becomes easier to find.

When you reach the G-Spot, you are actually massaging the highly sensitive neighbouring areas (internal clitoris, urethra and vagina) that are being pressed together, enhancing pleasure and leading to orgasm in some women.

The easiest way to locate your G-Spot?

Insert your index finger inside your vagina and make the "come hither" motion, gently rubbing your finger along the anterior wall.  Or look for dildos or vibrators that have an end with a slight angle.  G-Spot vibrators and dildos are popular because they can exert enough pressure needed to stimulate this hidden pleasure zone. 

Keeping Sex Fresh, Fun, and Exciting at Any Age...

So much of sex and intimacy is about feelings of excitement. As we age, issues with menopause, or simply the routine of a long term relationship, can negatively impact our sexual well-being. Whatever the effects of menopause may be in your life, the following ideas on their own can go a long way in helping to increase the odds that your sex life remains healthy, exciting, and satisfying.

Schedule regular date nights

Do something together that you both enjoy – the emphasis should not be solely on sex. If done right, though, the sex will often follow.

Plan a short get-away from home

A mini trip away from the distractions of work, home, and family will make intimacy with your partner a priority and ensure that you find time for sex. It can also give you the time for extended lovemaking that allows for plenty of touching, foreplay, and rediscovery of each other.

Be daring or naughty

Few things can rev up arousal more quickly than a little naughtiness and daring! Sex in the kitchen or in a secluded spot in the woods can charge you with a new sense of daring and excitement. You can explore your naughty side and introduce blindfolds, restraints, feather ticklers and other sensory stimulators to your sexual life. Playing with sensory deprivation or enhancement is a great way to increase arousal and sexual satisfaction.

Break out of your routine

Try new positions, different times of day, or different rooms in the house. And don’t restrict your sex lives to a little foreplay and then intercourse. Create an atmosphere with candles, and some sensual massage. Take your time with foreplay, allow your body to become aroused, and try something a little different like oral sex or passionate “necking” while still clothed. Doing this will likely take you back to the sexually charged excitement of the early days of your relationship.

Plan an erotic surprise

Send your children to the in-laws for the weekend, bring out the champagne bucket, put on some sexy lingerie and light the candles. Whatever will make you feel great and bring a sense of excitement and intimacy to your relationship, do it! Surprise your partner in a way that will make him or her feel special.

Indulge your senses

Create an environment for you and your partner that engages all of your senses. Try silk robes, seductive music, your favourite perfume, the smoky scent of fresh wood on the fire, the soft glow ofcandles, and the deep fullness of a delicious glass of wine. Be sure to pamper yourself beforehand so your skin feels silky soft and is especially receptive to the sense of touch. This focus on sensation will help you and your partner be present in the moment and foster full arousal during lovemaking. And if you’re feeling adventurous, try some sensory stimulation. Think feather ticklers, blindfolds or restraints, like hand cuffs or ropes. Deprivation of senses will heighten other senses and can lead to some amazing sex.

Be romantic and playful

Have great, meaningful conversations. Slow dance. Read poetry to each other. Leave hidden love notes. Touch each other in casual conversation. Cuddle and laugh. At its most basic, sex is a form of play and an expression of love. Be as mindful of these aspects of sex as when you first met. If you do, your desire, arousal, response, and satisfaction can’t help but improve.

Men's Sexual Anatomy

Beautiful, buoyant and continuously entertaining, the male pleasure parts are full of surprises and can be endlessly fun to play with. Knowing how it works and which are the most sensitive areas to stimulate, is a great way to please your partner, yourself and create intimacy in your relationship.

Identify the Pleasure Zones - the Penis, Scrotum, Testicles, Perineum, Prostate Gland, and Anus

Penis

Volumes have been written about this blooming organ,

Glans

Also known as the head of the penis. The glans is the most sensitive part of the male genitalia. Full of delicious nerve-endings (approximately 4,000), the glans are covered in uncircumcised men, only becoming exposed as the penis gets erect. In circumcised men the glans are always exposed. The analogous organ in a woman is her clitoris. 

Frenulum

The frenulum is the junction point on the underside of the penis between the glans (head) and shaft of the penis. This 1 inch area is considered to be the most sensitive part on the penis.

Coronal Ridge

The coronal ridge is the ridge of flesh that circles the penis and connects the head of the penis to the shaft.

Urethra

Located at in the tip of the head of the penis, the urethra is the entrance to the bladder, and the passage where urine and semen passes out of the body.

Foreskin

The skin that covers the head (glans) of the penis. The foreskin contains nerve endings and is the part that is removed during circumcision.

Corpa Cavernosa

The Corpa Cavernosa is the spongy tissue that runs along the sides of the shaft of the penis. When a man becomes aroused these fill with blood, resulting in an erection.

Scrotum

The scrotum is the sac that protects the testicles and controls the temperature of the testes, making ideal conditions for sperm production and storage. The scrotum appears larger and hangs down more in warmer temperatures. As the temperature drops, the scrotum will move closer to the body, at times completely disappearing into the body to keep warm.

The scrotum can be sensitive and stimulating to touch. It comes from analogous embryological tissue as is found in the vagina, and has a similar number of nerve endings that respond to stroking, licking and cupping.

Testicles

The testes are the reproductive organs in men, producing sperm and semen.

Perineum

The perineum is the pleasantly sensitive skin between the base of the scrotum and the anus. Many men enjoy this area being stroked, or having firm pressure applied.

Prostate Gland (P-Spot)

The prostate has three main functions, with the official function being the creation of nutrient-rich fluid for sperm health and protection as the sperm moves through the penis and inside the vagina. The prostate gland also presses on the urethra in such a way that urine does not mix with sperm.

The third function is pleasure. Stimulating the prostate gland can be very enjoyable for many men, and stimulating it during arousal can increase the intensity of the male orgasm. 

Anus

The anus is one area that cannot be missed. This jewel of sensation has some of the highest concentration of pleasurable nerve endings in the body, only second to the genitalia. No wonder it feels so good!

The anus is made up of a cone of muscle that has two draw-string like circular muscles. The first (most outside) muscle is under voluntary control and the second ring of muscle is not under voluntary control.

Playing with the outer area around the anus, or putting something just inside the opening can add a pleasurable sensation to any sexual encounter through the pudendal nerve, while moving deeper inside you will be accessing pleasure through the pelvic nerve. 

Penis size: Does it matter?

Well, yes and no. Yes, because a longer penis has been associated with more vaginal (in particular, cervical) orgasms. And a girthier penis is also associated with more sensation at the entrance of the vagina and G-Spot.

No, in that vaginal sensation is secondary to the stimulation of the clitoris. Most women get the majority of their sexual pleasure from the external stimulation of the clitoris, and the penis is not a necessary part of external clitoral stimulation.

Thanks to  Dr. Petra Zebroff, Relationship and Sex Therapist