So much of sex and intimacy is about feelings of excitement. As we age, issues with menopause, or simply the routine of a long term relationship, can negatively impact our sexual well-being. Whatever the effects of menopause may be in your life, the following ideas on their own can go a long way in helping to increase the odds that your sex life remains healthy, exciting, and satisfying.
Schedule regular date nights
Do something together that you both enjoy – the emphasis should not be solely on sex. If done right, though, the sex will often follow.
Plan a short get-away from home
A mini trip away from the distractions of work, home, and family will make intimacy with your partner a priority and ensure that you find time for sex. It can also give you the time for extended lovemaking that allows for plenty of touching, foreplay, and rediscovery of each other.
Be daring or naughty
Few things can rev up arousal more quickly than a little naughtiness and daring! Sex in the kitchen or in a secluded spot in the woods can charge you with a new sense of daring and excitement. You can explore your naughty side and introduce blindfolds, restraints, feather ticklers and other sensory stimulators to your sexual life. Playing with sensory deprivation or enhancement is a great way to increase arousal and sexual satisfaction.
Break out of your routine
Try new positions, different times of day, or different rooms in the house. And don’t restrict your sex lives to a little foreplay and then intercourse. Create an atmosphere with candles, and some sensual massage. Take your time with foreplay, allow your body to become aroused, and try something a little different like oral sex or passionate “necking” while still clothed. Doing this will likely take you back to the sexually charged excitement of the early days of your relationship.
Plan an erotic surprise
Send your children to the in-laws for the weekend, bring out the champagne bucket, put on some sexy lingerie and light the candles. Whatever will make you feel great and bring a sense of excitement and intimacy to your relationship, do it! Surprise your partner in a way that will make him or her feel special.
Indulge your senses
Create an environment for you and your partner that engages all of your senses. Try silk robes, seductive music, your favourite perfume, the smoky scent of fresh wood on the fire, the soft glow ofcandles, and the deep fullness of a delicious glass of wine. Be sure to pamper yourself beforehand so your skin feels silky soft and is especially receptive to the sense of touch. This focus on sensation will help you and your partner be present in the moment and foster full arousal during lovemaking. And if you’re feeling adventurous, try some sensory stimulation. Think feather ticklers, blindfolds or restraints, like hand cuffs or ropes. Deprivation of senses will heighten other senses and can lead to some amazing sex.
Be romantic and playful
Have great, meaningful conversations. Slow dance. Read poetry to each other. Leave hidden love notes. Touch each other in casual conversation. Cuddle and laugh. At its most basic, sex is a form of play and an expression of love. Be as mindful of these aspects of sex as when you first met. If you do, your desire, arousal, response, and satisfaction can’t help but improve.
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