What Make You Pregnant?

A woman gets her period usually once every 21-40 days. In between her periods, the woman ovulates (she releases an egg). If the egg makes a love-connection with any sperm, it gets fertilized and she might be pregnant. However, if the egg doesn't hook up with any sperm, the egg leaves the woman's body and she gets her period like usual--no pregnancy. Sperm leave a guy's body in his cum and pre-cum. In order to fertilize an egg, the guy must ejaculate the sperm inside the woman's vagina.

So, women are most likely to get pregnant around the time they release an egg. Ovulation happens around a week after your period until a week before your next period. But don't count on it! Your period might not be that regular, and ovulation can happen at any time, even during your period. Plus, sperm can live in a woman's body for days waiting for the egg!

So it's never "safe" to have sex (vaginal intercourse) without using birth control, like a condom for instance.

But what if...

We had sex during my period, could I be pregnant?
Yes. Even though this is the least likely time for you to get pregnant, it does happen. Women can ovulate at any time, even during their period. And menstrual blood can transmit HIV, so you should definitely practice safe sex during your period.

We had sex (but not intercourse) with our clothes on, could I be pregnant?
No. Sperm can't swim through clothes and into your vagina! If you had sex in your jeans, shorts, underwear or bathing suit (dry humping), there's no way you can be pregnant.

He came outside my vagina, could I be pregnant?

Probably not. Sometimes, if the guy cums outside, but very near the opening of the vagina, the sperm can swim their way inside. You risk pregnancy anytime his penis was inside your vagina. That's because guys don't always pull out soon enough before cumming and, even if they do, some cum (precum) leaks out before orgasm.

We had sex without using birth control, now what?
If you had unprotected vaginal intercourse or your birth control failed (like the condom broke) you can wait to see if your period comes on time and get a pregnancy test if it's late. 

Sex Everyday - Should Read This!!

Why you should have sex everyday

 
Heard that song called Sexual Healing?
It's not just a metaphor. Sex can actually heal. It can heal your body and mind and also prevent lots of diseases.

Some say it's the first medicine ever known to man and it should be administered daily. Sounds too good to be true? Let's discover the five reasons to have sex each day.

Great form of exercise 
Making love is a form of physical activity. During intercourse, the physiological changes in your body are consistent with a workout. You must have noticed that the respiratory rate rises, which means you get tired. Hence, you burn calories.

If you have sex three times a week for 15 minutes you'll burn about 7.500 calories in a year.

That's the equivalent of jogging 120km! Heavy breathing raises the amount of oxygen in your cells, and the testosterone produced during sex keeps your bones and muscles strong.

Pain relief 
The "Honey, not today, I have a headache" cannot be an excuse any more.

During sex, both male and female bodies produce endorphins, hormones that act as weak painkillers.

A study conducted by reknowned sex theraphist Gina Ogden showed that during sexual stimulation and especially during orgasm, we don't feel pain.

If she finds another excuse, remind her that sex is good for her entire reproductive system, because it trains the PC muscle, which keeps the reproductive organs in shape.

In women, sex can also increase fertility, postpone the menopause and relieve PMS symptoms.

Prostate protection Most of the fluid you ejaculate is secreted by the prostate gland. If you stop ejaculating, the fluid stays in the gland, which tends to swell, causing lots of problems.

Regular ejaculation will wash those fluids out and ensure the well being of your prostate until old age. Problems may also occur when you suddenly change the frequency of ejaculations.

Prevents EDFifty per cent of men older than 40 suffer from erectile dysfunctions and all young men fear the moment when they won't be able to get it up any more. The best medicine against impotence is...sex.

An erection keeps the blood flowing through your penile arteries, so the tissue stays healthy. Plus, doctors compare an erection to an athletic reflex: the more you train the more capable you are to perform.

Stress relief 
It's a scientific fact: sex can be a very effective way of reducing stress levels.

During sex your body produces dopamine, a substance that fights stress hormones, endorphins, aka "happiness hormones" and oxytocin, a desire-enhancing hormone secreted by the pituitary gland.
-timesofindia.indiatimes.com

Sex Without Love - Poem

And i love this poem......

Sex Without Love

 How do they do it, the ones who make love
 without love? Beautiful as dancers,
 Gliding over each other like ice-skaters
 over the ice, fingers hooked
 inside each other's bodies, faces
 red as steak, wine, wet as the
 children at birth, whose mothers are going to
 give them away. How do they come to the
 come to the come to the God come to the
 still waters, and not love
 the one who came there with them, light
 rising slowly as steam off their joined
 skin? These are the true religious,
 the purists, the pros, the ones who will not
 accept a false Messiah, love the
 priest instead of the God. They do not
 mistake the lover for their own pleasure,
 they are like great runners: they know they are alone
 with the road surface, the cold, the wind,
 the fit of their shoes, their over-all cardio
 vascular health--just factors, like the partner
 in the bed, and not the truth, which is the
 single body alone in the universe
 against its own best time.

-- Sharon Olds

Her Orgasm - Is It Fake?

recognize the real thing

The best way to tell if a woman is faking orgasm is to know how to recognize the real thing. Signs of arousal become visible throughout the process of sexual response, particularly during the pre-orgasm phase.

So what are these signs? How can you tell when she’s close to orgasm? Throughout the ages, wise men have reflected upon this question, and in The Tao of Love and Sex, author Jolan Chang offers us the “indications of female arousal,” as laid out by Taoist master Wu Hsien:

“Her hands are hot and her abdomen warm, and at the same time her language becomes almost unintelligible. Her expression looks as though she is bewitched, her body is soft as jelly and her limbs are droopy. The saliva under her tongue has been sucked dry.”

Well, OK, though today’s man might not notice if “the saliva under her tongue has been sucked dry,” he is apt to observe:

•    An increase in the pace of her breathing
•    An increase in body temperature and heart rate
•    A high state of tension in her muscles (hypertonicity)
•    A tightening of the abdominal muscles
•    A throbbing of her PC muscles and a general “bearing down” on the pelvic area

As she releases sexual tension through orgasm, her vagina and uterus will contract, on average, 10 to 15 times, with each contraction lasting approximately 8/10ths of a second. Her rectal sphincter contracts anywhere from two to five times, as well. Attendant to these genital and rectal contractions is the tensing and releasing, in spasm, of many of the muscles throughout her body, including arms, legs, neck, and face. Even her toes will bend and arch forward. 

recognize she's faking it

While many women can duplicate the characteristics of orgasm, including the contractions of the PC muscles, it’s unlikely she could manufacture 8 to 10 of these contractions in less than 20 seconds, especially in combination with all the other visible characteristics.

But, in truth, most women know that when faking it, they needn’t bother portraying a convincing facsimile of the real thing, when they can simply offer up a porn-inspired performance of those characteristics that are most likely to fool and please men: lots of sound and fury, which, in the end, is nothing more than smoke and mirrors. It’s the screamers and the thrashers who are very often the fakers. 

We know that that an orgasm doesn’t come out of nowhere. It’s the final exclamation point on a sentence that you’ve been writing all along. If the final flourish feels unearned or out of the blue, then it likely is.

Thanks to: http://www.askmen.com

Sex During Pregnancy

These days, people can and do talk about sex more easily than ever before. Nevertheless, when it comes to the subject of sex during pregnancy, a little of the old stand-offishness seems to persist. Women are often reluctant to bring up the question with their obstetricians. Worse, both husbands and wives frequently keep their innermost fears and feelings to themselves.
Particularly if this is your first child, your pregnancy will probably be a time of erratic mood swings ... for you and your husband too. You may alternately feel fatigued ... exhilarated, content ... depressed, eager ... fearful, motherly and beautiful... uncomfortable and unattractive. He on the other hand may range from feeling proud at having fathered a child, to anxious about the new financial responsibilities, from protective toward you and the growing fetus, to jealous of your new preoccupation.
All these mood changes will in turn have their changing effect on your attitudes toward each other ... and on your desire for sex. The most important thing is not what you feel, nor how silly you think it is, but that you share those feelings with each other. In this way you can make necessary adjustments and accommodations for a sexual relationship that continues to be as fulfilling as possible for both of you.
Following are some answers to questions about sex that commonly trouble expectant couples. If, after you and your husband have read it, you have further questions ... or if at any time during your pregnancy you encounter a sexual problem or conflict that you cannot resolve yourselves ... do not hesitate to ask your doctor. Be assured that nothing you can say will shock him. No matter how bizarre you may think the discussion, other people have probably had the same problem. And as he counseled them, so can he counsel you ...sympathetically and knowledgeably.

Questions that Trouble Pregnant Women
1. Will my desire for sex decrease during my pregnancy?
No two women react exactly the same way to pregnancy. In most women, pregnancy has no significant effect on their interest in sex. In those women for whom contraception was an interruption or psychological obstacle, pregnancy may be a period of carefree and uninhibited sexual indulgence. At certain times, some women may feel they are "losing their figure and looks" during pregnancy. They may shy away from love-making, feeling undesirable. Or they may desire sex more often than usual as reassurance that their husbands still love them and find them attractive.
Occasionally, there will be a woman who feels an absolute distaste for intercourse throughout the course of her pregnancy. It is thought that this may be related to a conscious or unconscious fear of hurting the fetus, for it usually disappears after the baby is born.
2. Can vigorous intercourse harm the baby?
It is virtually impossible to harm the fetus in the uterus. The fluid it floats in, the membranes that contain it, the womb itself, the abdominal wall, and the bony pelvis all serve to protect the new life from injury.
3. Is it harmful to have orgasm during pregnancy?
Not at all. Orgasm is just as beneficial then as at any other time. And your having an orgasm will make no difference to the baby.
4. How often is it safe to have intercourse during pregnancy?
There is no ideal frequency and any frequency is safe. Frequency varies remarkably from couple to couple and from month to month with the same couple. Some women are disinterested during the first three months of pregnancy, partly due to the fatigue that may accompany this period. But they tend to regain their energy in the fourth month and will often experience a new surge of sexual feeling.
5. Can I have intercourse any time during pregnancy?
Generally sexual intercourse is permitted throughout pregnancy until the last few weeks, when-some doctors feel-it might possibly cause premature rupture of the membranes. However, many doctors do not agree with this precaution. and you would do best to follow your own physician's instructions.
Intercourse should be curtailed and your doctor consulted if:
1) your "bag of waters" has broken; 2) you have vaginal bleeding, or itching and discharge: 3) you feel pain in the vagina or abdomen.
6. I have a history of miscarriages. Must I abstain from intercourse?
It is customary to abstain for the first three months of your pregnancy. Your doctor will probably tell you also not to take bumpy car rides or indulge in strenuous physical activity. This is to give the placenta a chance to develop sufficiently so that trauma to the uterus will not bring on bleeding or cramps.
7. I don't have pain. But the pressure during intercourse causes me great discomfort.
It is simply your husband's weight that is causing you discomfort, this can be remedied by changing position. For instance, he may kneel astride you, or approach you from the side or back, or you may sit astride him.

If you feel internal pressure, it is wise to avoid deep penetration. Changing position or using pillows under you to change the angle of entry into the vagina may help. Also, additional lubrication with cream or jelly made for this purpose may relieve any vaginal discomfort.
8. It is very difficult to talk to my husband about the way I feel. I think I look ugly and undesirable. He never tells me otherwise and he doesn’t cuddle me anymore.
Occasionally, a few men are physically "turned off" during their wife's pregnancy. It is only temporary and it shouldn’t be viewed as a rejection. On the other hand, your husband's seeming neglect probably has nothing to do with your looks, since the majority of men find their wives most beautiful during this time. He may have inner anxieties and mixed feelings about his coming fatherhood that make him seem different. Or you may be unconsciously so involved with your "inner" life, that you are perhaps somewhat neglectful of him. Possibly your husband and you just need to talk things out more.
9. Is it permissible to douche during pregnancy?
This is another subject of some disagreement, so you'd best consult your own doctor. When permitted. you should use a douche bag or can (not a bulb syringe) and keep the water source lower than two feet to minimize the force of the water flow. With the nozzle inserted no more than a couple of inches into the vagina, allow the water to run in and out freely. Remember that douching is a matter of preference, and is not considered absolutely necessary for proper vaginal hygiene.

Questions that Trouble Expectant Fathers

1. I have a strong need for sex but since her pregnancy, my wife isn't interested. It is causing tension between us. What con we do?

As with other marital disagreements, some form of loving compromise is probably the healthiest solution. See if you can talk it out with your wife, and perhaps settle on some lesser frequency or alternate method for you that requires less complete participation on her part.

Remember, too, that it is sometimes hard for a woman to feel interested in sex when she herself doesn't feel desirable. Frequent reassurance from you that she is still beautiful and loved despite her bulging belly may also help matters.

2. When I feel the baby moving in my wife's belly while we're making love, it puts on end to my sexual interest.

No doubt you are unconsciously worried that you might hurt the baby. You won't. As discussed above, the fetus is well protected. And its kickings and turnings have nothing to do with your sexual activity. However, if you are still bothered by this, try another position so you don't feel the baby.

Special Thanks to FRED CREUTZMANN, M.D. –

Myth and Fact About Incest

1. MYTH: Some children are openly seductive and encourage sexual activity.

REALITY: Acting out sexual behaviors is an indicator that a child has been sexually abused; it is a consequence of sexual abuse, not a cause. Adults who claim that children "seduced" them are making excuses which would have us ignore that fact that adults are bigger, stronger, have more information, power and authority than children; and have us ignore the ridiculous notion that children can force adults to do something the adult does not want to do.

2. MYTH: All a child has to do is say "no" and tell someone. If she doesn't, she has consented to the abuse.

REALITY: The child is never responsible for the abuse. Abusers often threaten ("if you tell I will hurt your mother.") and guilt ("if you tell, your mother will divorce me and it will be your fault.") the child into silence, but silence does not equal consent. The other reality is that many children do tell, and are disbelieved, ridiculed and punished.

3. MYTH: Incest only happens when the family is severely dysfunctional.

REALITY: Incest happens in many families that are considered "normal". That is one reason why the abuse remains hidden. Abusers often depend on a "respectable" image to protect them. We must remember that the abuser is responsible for the abuse; not other members of the family. The family as a whole may have problems that existed before the abuse, or problems that developed as a result of the abuse, BUT family problems do not make a man rape his daughter.

4. MYTH: A good mother would know if her child was being sexually abused, and would do anything to stop it.

REALITY: Most mothers do not know. The abuser works hard at protecting his secret. He may sabotage the mother/child relationship so the child is less likely to be close to and trust the mother. He may offer the mother other explanations for the child's behavior/distress. Mothers who do try to protect their children face unbelievable legal and social obstacles. We often expect mothers to accomplish something that the police, courts and social service system combined cannot do; and then we condemn mothers who fail.

5. MYTH: Incest rarely happens.

REALITY: Incest is more common than anyone would like to believe. Although exact statistics are impossible to come by, research indicates that one in four children will be sexually abused; most by a family member or other trusted adult.

6. MYTH: Only crazy people sexually abuse children.

REALITY: Psychiatric testing reveals that 97% of the men who sexually assault children are not mentally ill. They may have "personality" problems, like many men who do not assault children, but they know exactly what they are doing. Often their actions are in line with societal values which represent women and children as men's property; as objects to be used for men's gratification.

7. MYTH: Children lie about sexual abuse to get attention or get revenge.

REALITY: Most children do not tell anyone, ever. The idea that children lie or fantasize about sexual abuse has been protecting abusers for decades. Children do not have the information or motivation to make up stories of sexual abuse. The notion that children lie about sexual abuse does not acknowledge the shame and secrecy associated with the topic; or acknowledge that disclosing sexual abuse is rarely a rewarding experience for a child.

8. MYTH: Children are forced or manipulated into lying about sexual abuse by mothers who want revenge.

REALITY: When children tell about sexual abuse they don't just speak with words. Their emotions, play, drawings, and posture all tell part of the story. Children cannot fake that kind of reaction. Mothers are often accused of forcing children to falsely disclose sexual abuse if the disclosure comes out as part of a custody battle. The reality is that the reason for the custody battle is usually because the child disclosed abuse and the mother is trying to protect her child.

9. MYTH: Adults who suddenly remember that they were sexually abused as children are victims of "False Memory Syndrome".

REALITY: There is no such thing as False Memory Syndrome. It is simply an undocumented, unproven idea invented by the parents of a woman who was sexually abused by her father. Research does validate the existence of repressed traumatic memories. We are most familiar with examples of the repressed memories of war veterans. Most survivors of child sexual abuse have recovered some repressed memories, and many also have "un-forgotten" memories of abuse. Some women incest survivors propose that we investigate False Innocence Belief Syndrome (FIBS) for abusers who steadfastly maintain their innocence.

Oral Sex Is It Healthy?

Most of us enjoyed oral sex i guess. By using our mouth n tongue, this method are so 

popular among us. When men doing it to a women it's called cunnilingus and when women doing it to a men it's called fellatio. There are variety of techniques involving this 'job's. it's all depend how you manipulating the vagina(including clitoris) and penis(including testis known as The  Balls.) It's all about sucking and licking. Couples can performing oral sex at the same time in 69 position.

Oral sex between healthy people is safe and clean. another hygiene aspect that concerns some of us is genital odor. Simply washing the genital is sufficient to prepare you for any sex, including oral sex. Douching can wash away the helpful bacteria that naturally protect the vagina. In addition to a man's natural genital odors, the genitals often take on the smells of recently eaten foods. As with women, thorough washing can reduce this odor, and besides, many people find some degree of genital odor in their partner stimulating.

But do you know that, according to American Cancer Society, you are potentially can get throat cancer from oral sex? Actually it's not the oral sex itself can cause throat cancer but the human papillommvirus (HPV), which can passed from person to person including oral sex.

Researchers have found that some cancers of the oropharynx (the middle of the throat) and tonsils are probably caused by a certain type of human papillomavirus (HPV). HPV is common, but it doesn't always cause cancer. If you aren't exposed to HPV during oral sex, you're not at risk for cancer. 

Anyway, enjoy your sex in any way you like as long as it doesn't make your partner hurts.